The Burden of Invisible Labor

The heavy mental load that a mother carries often goes unnoticed. As discussed in the prior blog post, this burden is invisible and therefore difficult for someone else to recognize.

Mothers often become the planner for the family. Not only do they carry the burden of planning the day-to-day logistics of having a child, but they are often busy planning ahead; what gifts need to be bought for upcoming holidays and birthdays, what clothes are the children growing out of that need to be replaced, what summer plans need to be arranged, what classes does my teen need to be taking in the next 3 years to graduate with honors, etc.

This constant state of heavy-thinking can lead to burnout in many mothers. The stress and worry of planning for a child and family can simply become too much, especially when combined with responsibilities at work. If left ignored, the symptoms of burnout can turn into more serious mental and physical health struggles for this mother.

Below are some warning signs that a mom is struggling:

• sleep and appetite changes

• aggravation at things that previously did not bother her

• frequent need to ‘get away’ from the home or responsibilites

• losing interest in previous hobbies and activities

• increased use of alcohol or other substances

• lack of energy and frequent forgetfulness

There are more warning signs not listed above, but most importantly be aware of changes in yourself or your loved one. If they appear to be struggling in any way, there may be a problem. Next we will address some ways in which you can help yourself as a burned-out mom, or help someone you love.